Question:
I bought my wife a book titled LOVING SOMEONE WITH BIPOLAR. Right now
I am in a mixed cycle..at least I think I am...will be seeing my pdoc
Monday. My current state gives rise to the question...
Is it really possible to LOVE someone with bipolar. Or merely tolerate
them when they are stable and pray to whichever Diety one accepts
during a cycle that the cycle abates quickly?
I know self-love sure ain't very possible for me as a BPDeuce
Answer:
In my opinion and my life, I have some long time friends and my
immediate family (sons and grandchildren) and the boyfriend of almost 2
years; life couldn't be better on my good days.
The flags go up when I go manic, I talk and let others know it's "there
she blows" or the " is back" and it's very obvious what comes after
that...
Honesty is the key for us. When I'm in a hypomania, things go well.
Everyone seems to know and find other people and places to be, leaving
me pretty much alone and stress free. When that's done and I get
depressed; Again, honesty comes to ward off stress and sleep takes over
to bring me back to the world refreshed and happy.
Loving me and me loving others is crucial and always possible. Honesty,
knowledge, and loving myself as much as I can gives way to deserving
love from others and to others.
With true love all things are possible.
ask my X-wife- left to spare her my craziness.She couldn't endure the
symptoms I have a healthy obsession.Isn't that good news?No I just like
'em,isn't that ok?Biopolar or no? more likely we can be friends.which certainly is often better. Loving one with bipolar disorder is a task for only the committed and
committable.I have an interest at the moment,if she hasn't fled just
because I said hello.I just needed a friend,& women are easier for this
avoidant person to talk with. one must distinguish love from infatuation,or lust. I'd say forget it. but then it's like Jessica Lange as "Frances" asked Sam "doesn't
anybody really care about anybody,Harry?" In our time many aren't capable of a conviction or committment I wrote "With Love all things are possible" in my earlier post. The guy
I was seeing for 2 years left me again. He has a bad habit of running
off when I actually need him the most. I am facing that without
emotion. I haven't shed one tear over him because he has done it
before. In fact, I am relieved that he is gone. He smokes too much and
dranks more beer than he should so I am rejoicing in my loneliness.
I can now be selfish again. I get the whole bed. I can do and go where
I want to and this is all great. I feel like a chameleon sometimes.
Actually it's my age. I adapt to my environment rather quickly now.
LOL.
am i the only one with changing feelings? i'm afraid i will marry a woman
when very depressed, and fall out of love once i improve. i am also
concerned about not settling for the wrong woman. depression is a tricky
thing. And Sam replied,"beats me".It's hard out there.bipolar or
normal.believe me.A little love is hard to find as Tom Petty sang I think bipolars should proceed with caution,usually being very
sensitive & easily hurt & discouraged we can think we're in love when another is kind & we are very lonely &
possibly miss out on all a friendship can be.Friendship usually
outlasts a lust
to be touched
